Having this extremely silly habit of studying people, I was one day driven by this crazy urge to ask a young girl sitting by my side in the bus about how she feels about life. She was about 19, and was very glad (to my surprise) that I asked. She started off her 20 minutes long description at this bullet train speed (yes the new ones in India) which was really difficult to cope with. I did not actually hear the whole thing, (and I didn’t want to) but what caught the most of my attention was this part:
“I just love my life. It is bumpy sometimes, but still, I can deal with anything. I am a strong girl. I love my family, I love my friends, well not all of them, but yes, many. I have this cutest lil’ dog, which I named Goofy, after MY favorite cartoon character. And, I have a boyfriend, I love him so much, he just keeps flattering ME all the time. I love taking pictures of MYself, and oh yes; I am such an emotional girl. I do a lot of social work; I even gave MY old toys and clothes to the poor children. Also, I love MYself, I love the way I am, chubby or fat if you want to call it, I am happy anyways I look…………..” and some more 15 minutes of rubbish.
Among the countless I, ME, MY’s of this “cheerful” (filmy I would call it) girl, she totally forgot I had asked about what she thinks of LIFE, and not what she feels about herself.
Being a college student myself, what I see around everywhere is the growing obsession of self. Every single person is selfish, and selfish in a sense, that everywhere, “I” will come first, no matter who “YOU” are. Selfies and Self-love sagas are the new “THING”.
People love themselves, which is not a problem, at all (trust me, I also love myself). But the problem is being obsessed with it. We are so busy looking at ourselves in the mirror, that the value of love for others is losing its worth. Self-love is important, I mean definitely, you ought to love who you are, respect yourself, accept yourself in your totality, but that wouldn’t mean you put yourself on cloud nine.
You are beautiful (or handsome, sorry guys), but count on me, that mirror, or 880 likes on your selfie wouldn’t give you the happiness that comes when you in fact, open your eyes to others. There are beautiful people out there, by their make and by their trait. Try to just look into the people around you; some of them are really wonderful people. Put aside that phone and camera of yours, and spend time with them, not snapping pictures but snapping memories. Your families, your friends, your pet, you yourself, need love, from self, as well as from others.
LOVE SELF, LOVE OTHERS, AND BE LOVED.
P.S.- I am not against selfies, I have many myself!!!